This is for all of us that have sister(s). Those of us who have them know that we couldn't ever live without them. Especially, older sisters. Who else is going to think it's a big deal too if you don't like your hair cut? And who else is going to read over a text message and help you word it and put to rest your fears that it doesn't "sound" right?
I once came home from a date and wrote my sister three pages describing my night and conveying my uneasy thoughts. It was complete with, he said this and then I did this and then he said this which made me feel like this etc...seriously, who else would read a novel long documented description of a date and then proceed with thoughtful advice on the matter? Or really help you contemplate if you should get the red one or the blue one? I really do put her through a lot, and thanks to FB she still can't escape even though she's all the way in Europe. :P
Going to college would never have entered my mind on my own, but it is one of the best things I've ever done. I feel so much smarter. :D And I never would have started ballroom dancing. I remember being forced to look at my studios website and having no interest in it.
So thank God some of us have sisters! XD This is of course not to make those of you who don't feel like you are missing out...even though, well...you are.
Oh, and by the way, the next time you’re in one of those situations where you don’t know how to turn someone down, don’t worry. Nature has given you a way. Tell them that your body is not responding to their pheromones and therefore, you find you have no attraction for them, but it has nothing to do with their personality. For those who don't know about pheromones, we subconsciously smell each other, forming a root (note: not the only root) of sexual attraction. Generally speaking, that is why we are not attracted to our family members or people of the same sex; we don't respond to their pheromones, which is a leading argument for, "I was born gay." Sure buddy. Blame it on your pheromones.
I really do think that pheromones are one of the coolest things! I even made it part of one of my email addresses.
Leanne
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
The Others
Imagine there’s a fence and you’re either on one side or the other. One side is filled with people who say, life is nothing but awesome! When they do complain they complain about how boys are such jerks and how it’s so hard to find a pair of jeans that fit right. Gender depending of course. As for the males, they seem to like to find a way to show how smart they are; which they generally are. But when you say something abstract or depressing you are met with blank looks.
The other side of the fence is where you find people who understand more complex feelings that don’t stop at, I’m still single…like oh my God!
This is not to undermine those feelings. They say everyone feels their own pain to the same extent. It’s very real to us no matter how minor. Sometimes when I’m at my studio and find myself talking to someone who’s day is ruined because of a minor occurrence I have to pause and realize that because it’s a big deal to them, and for no other reason then that, I will look at it as a big deal too. Kind of like the sister code. Someone made you upset? Ok…who am I hating today? :)
We will seek out the company of people who have simply said I understand or who we think wont judge us. This opinion is probably biased from living in a small town. The only negative side of small towns are the people.
At one point I reasoned with a dear relative of mine a particular behavior and why someone would do it. He said he couldn’t understand the correlation in regards to himself, but could understand how someone else might do that to achieve that outcome.
He could wrap his mind around it because of his past experiences. The result is an empathetic person as apposed to a judgmental person. Or in the least a person who can understand. Ever said something and had someone stare at you with that blank look and then say, “You’re weird,”?
So if you find yourself being confused by the things other people say then…well, you know what side of the fence you’re on. If you can't understand where someone is coming from...try.
I have to add that the beautiful aspect of metal music or music where they scream 1/4 of the time (AFI is the best) is that it’s kind of like finding common ground in an inpersonal way. They’re screaming about something and if you listen to them it’s kind of like screaming with them. It doesn’t have to be about the same thing or even matter what it's about.
Leanne
The other side of the fence is where you find people who understand more complex feelings that don’t stop at, I’m still single…like oh my God!
This is not to undermine those feelings. They say everyone feels their own pain to the same extent. It’s very real to us no matter how minor. Sometimes when I’m at my studio and find myself talking to someone who’s day is ruined because of a minor occurrence I have to pause and realize that because it’s a big deal to them, and for no other reason then that, I will look at it as a big deal too. Kind of like the sister code. Someone made you upset? Ok…who am I hating today? :)
We will seek out the company of people who have simply said I understand or who we think wont judge us. This opinion is probably biased from living in a small town. The only negative side of small towns are the people.
At one point I reasoned with a dear relative of mine a particular behavior and why someone would do it. He said he couldn’t understand the correlation in regards to himself, but could understand how someone else might do that to achieve that outcome.
He could wrap his mind around it because of his past experiences. The result is an empathetic person as apposed to a judgmental person. Or in the least a person who can understand. Ever said something and had someone stare at you with that blank look and then say, “You’re weird,”?
So if you find yourself being confused by the things other people say then…well, you know what side of the fence you’re on. If you can't understand where someone is coming from...try.
I have to add that the beautiful aspect of metal music or music where they scream 1/4 of the time (AFI is the best) is that it’s kind of like finding common ground in an inpersonal way. They’re screaming about something and if you listen to them it’s kind of like screaming with them. It doesn’t have to be about the same thing or even matter what it's about.
Leanne
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Your Beautiful Body
I’ve come to the conclusion that men that get large tattoos deal with insecurity and have low confidence. Most outward statements make a louder inside statement. If there was one thing I could say to a particular boy I know it would be, what have you done to your beautiful body?! Shirtless will now mean showing off a life size picture on your skin.
But maybe I’m just biased since I think the male body is beautiful. Not in a sexual way, but for what it represents, which is everything that God intended it to.
Funny how when you tell someone who has low confidence that they did a good job (when of course they really did do a good job) they often times simply shrug and say that it was just luck. As was the case with Mr. Cha Cha (his nick name, which is fitting because he actually did the Cha Cha).
Now that school is back so is caffeine for me. Unfortunately, my body doesn’t share the positive view I have of coffee. The other day I thought I saw a figure walk by in the corner of my eye in the reflection of a window. Funny how real these things can look.
My car is in the middle of being worked on, which makes me very happy because I was starting not to trust it. I have the amazing fortune of having a father that is a mechanic. I’m starting to think I should marry a mechanic. They do say girls tend to go for a man who has characteristics of her father.
Leanne
P.S. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t see anything wrong with tattoos…but please think twice before you stick something permanent on that takes up half your upper body.
But maybe I’m just biased since I think the male body is beautiful. Not in a sexual way, but for what it represents, which is everything that God intended it to.
Funny how when you tell someone who has low confidence that they did a good job (when of course they really did do a good job) they often times simply shrug and say that it was just luck. As was the case with Mr. Cha Cha (his nick name, which is fitting because he actually did the Cha Cha).
Now that school is back so is caffeine for me. Unfortunately, my body doesn’t share the positive view I have of coffee. The other day I thought I saw a figure walk by in the corner of my eye in the reflection of a window. Funny how real these things can look.
My car is in the middle of being worked on, which makes me very happy because I was starting not to trust it. I have the amazing fortune of having a father that is a mechanic. I’m starting to think I should marry a mechanic. They do say girls tend to go for a man who has characteristics of her father.
Leanne
P.S. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t see anything wrong with tattoos…but please think twice before you stick something permanent on that takes up half your upper body.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
You Have Issues…I Just Know It
So, everybody uses defense mechanisms, right? Correct. It’s your minds way of protecting yourself, and therefore they are a good thing; unless you rely on them extensively. On learning about this subject I became fascinated at looking at people I interacted with and seeing what they used. People tend to gravitate towards one or two.
I might have taken it too far when once when someone stood there getting mad at me and the thoughts in my head were, “Is this displacement or is she really mad at me?”
I’m only going to mention the ones I’ve seen the most in real life …
1. Displacement
You’re mad at your teacher but you’re taking it out on me. Or maybe you’re stressed. Note to self: don’t take it too personally and when the tables are turned remember this when I’m yelling at you =)
2. Suppression
You consciously try to forget something because it is too unpleasant to think about. Unfortunately, if you do this then you could also be suppressing your emotions associated with the situation. You are not dealing with them and they wont just go away. You will walk around with them. Possibly forever. Just saying…
3. Projection
Self preservation of the ego (not Frued’s ego…okay, only psychology lovers will get that). You like to blame your mistakes on other people. It's not me, it's you. I’m going to assume this also means your locus of control is external. It’s not good because you could hurt a lot of people.
4. Rationalization
I love this one. We create our own logic. Example: I would totally date him, but wait…he didn’t ask me out! Whatever, he probably is an immature kid. It would have been disastrous. Boy am I lucky he didn’t ask me out. :P
5. Withdrawal
You’d rather not interact with the world. For whatever reasons you find the interaction unpleasant. Call it self-isolation, which actually leads you to withdraw even more. Down the lonely path we go…
Note: Anti Social is someone who doesn’t care about society so just because someone doesn’t socialize doesn’t mean they’re anti social. Common misplaced word. I was often called anti social in my childhood…no worries, I wasn’t. I was simply self-sufficient.
6. Identification
You lack self confidence and need your peers or some form of a group for you to be part of. I usually think of those poor young people who are trying so hard to get into the cool group.
Just thought you all should know you probably overuse one and therefore you have issues (that's good news for those of us who would like to try and diagnose you). It’s okay, just don’t forget you are a unique human being…just like everybody else.
Leanne
I might have taken it too far when once when someone stood there getting mad at me and the thoughts in my head were, “Is this displacement or is she really mad at me?”
I’m only going to mention the ones I’ve seen the most in real life …
1. Displacement
You’re mad at your teacher but you’re taking it out on me. Or maybe you’re stressed. Note to self: don’t take it too personally and when the tables are turned remember this when I’m yelling at you =)
2. Suppression
You consciously try to forget something because it is too unpleasant to think about. Unfortunately, if you do this then you could also be suppressing your emotions associated with the situation. You are not dealing with them and they wont just go away. You will walk around with them. Possibly forever. Just saying…
3. Projection
Self preservation of the ego (not Frued’s ego…okay, only psychology lovers will get that). You like to blame your mistakes on other people. It's not me, it's you. I’m going to assume this also means your locus of control is external. It’s not good because you could hurt a lot of people.
4. Rationalization
I love this one. We create our own logic. Example: I would totally date him, but wait…he didn’t ask me out! Whatever, he probably is an immature kid. It would have been disastrous. Boy am I lucky he didn’t ask me out. :P
5. Withdrawal
You’d rather not interact with the world. For whatever reasons you find the interaction unpleasant. Call it self-isolation, which actually leads you to withdraw even more. Down the lonely path we go…
Note: Anti Social is someone who doesn’t care about society so just because someone doesn’t socialize doesn’t mean they’re anti social. Common misplaced word. I was often called anti social in my childhood…no worries, I wasn’t. I was simply self-sufficient.
6. Identification
You lack self confidence and need your peers or some form of a group for you to be part of. I usually think of those poor young people who are trying so hard to get into the cool group.
Just thought you all should know you probably overuse one and therefore you have issues (that's good news for those of us who would like to try and diagnose you). It’s okay, just don’t forget you are a unique human being…just like everybody else.
Leanne
Thursday, January 6, 2011
Abnormal Art...Isn't it Beautiful.
Question: What picture grabs your attention more?
The beautiful sunset of Claude Monet
Or the expressionist painting of Edvard Munch
Exactly. And that is why I like abnormal art. It can be expressionist, gothic, etc...anything but pointillism is probably decent enough. There’s something about an abnormal pictures that stays in your mind longer and makes you stop and think, what the heck is going on? Art is to be admired, but it is also to be pondered. Sunsets are beautiful, but yeah, it’s just a sunset.
It’s like reading a story by Edgar Allen Poe. It psychologically says, let’s go deeper.
I've always liked The Scream. I think it's beautiful. More so than the sunset or any other pretty picture people come up with.
Here's a quote from the author of The Scream:
"I was walking along a path with two friends — the sun was setting — suddenly the sky turned blood red — I paused, feeling exhausted, and leaned on the fence — there was blood and tongues of fire above the blue-black fjord and the city — my friends walked on, and I stood there trembling with anxiety — and I sensed an infinite scream passing through nature."
Leanne
The beautiful sunset of Claude Monet
Or the expressionist painting of Edvard Munch
Exactly. And that is why I like abnormal art. It can be expressionist, gothic, etc...anything but pointillism is probably decent enough. There’s something about an abnormal pictures that stays in your mind longer and makes you stop and think, what the heck is going on? Art is to be admired, but it is also to be pondered. Sunsets are beautiful, but yeah, it’s just a sunset.
It’s like reading a story by Edgar Allen Poe. It psychologically says, let’s go deeper.
I've always liked The Scream. I think it's beautiful. More so than the sunset or any other pretty picture people come up with.
Here's a quote from the author of The Scream:
"I was walking along a path with two friends — the sun was setting — suddenly the sky turned blood red — I paused, feeling exhausted, and leaned on the fence — there was blood and tongues of fire above the blue-black fjord and the city — my friends walked on, and I stood there trembling with anxiety — and I sensed an infinite scream passing through nature."
Leanne
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Unnoble intentions
We meet so many people in life, and they all are so very different from each other and going through different stages it’s hard to know how one is suppose to properly handle a particular person. Especially when 95% of your brain is thinking about yourself, and the fact that there’s a million sides to a person you can’t see. Of course, it would get slightly tiring to walk around like you’re walking on glass, hoping you’re handling everyone right. Life’s tough and you’re probably going to hurt someone, treat someone wrong, go at them with selfish motives, and you’re probably going to learn from it…and then mess up again. So, what is one to do?
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
—Romans 12:9-10
That’s as good as it gets. Get ready to fall short. =)
Leanne
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
—Romans 12:9-10
That’s as good as it gets. Get ready to fall short. =)
Leanne
Saturday, January 1, 2011
From champagne to Pretty Dresses to Drunk Lesbians…Hello 2011!
I anticipated a quiet evening at home doing nothing for my New Year’s Eve. I know, I’m getting old before my time. I went to a dance at my studio the day before and found the person I related to the most was an older man who planned on spending it with his dogs. I hope those are some nice dogs…coming from a person who doesn't really like cats and dogs. :P But during this party I won a free ticket to a New Year’s event at a hotel. Way cool, as I would never have spent the money on it myself.
I met other people from my studio there and we soon found our tables. As luck would have it I sat next to a man who remembered what it was like to be 19. “Look,” I said, “They gave me tickets for two free drinks. Do you think I could use them?” His answer was you never know till you try. I didn’t have to though. Shall I say more? Nah. My mom might read this, lol.
The dance floor was incredibly small and crowded. It was fun not to have to think about executing steps in perfect fashion and dance frame for a night. It’s freedom to break every rule. You don’t even need a partner if you don’t want one. And if you do have one, the best part is getting them to dance in a more freestyle way than they are doing.
Their live band had a saxophone player. That really is one of the best instruments. And of course they also had a pretty lady singer, who made everyone look better.
Ironically, the last time I was at this hotel it was for a Pentecostal Revival with some friends. Now we’re hopping around on the dance floor. Same room and everything.
It was after we welcomed in the New Year, screamed as the balloons came falling down and continued dancing into the night (I know, technically, it would be morning, but that doesn’t sound right) that I was greeted by a giggling pretty girl who used her high alcohol level to join my dance space. She was fun, though slightly out of control, until I came to the conclusion that she was not simply drunk, but probably a lesbian as well. Suffice to say I took her hands and changed the “dance.”
Note to idiot men who take pictures of women dancing together: you’re idiots.
Anyway, Happy New Year to everyone!
Leanne
I met other people from my studio there and we soon found our tables. As luck would have it I sat next to a man who remembered what it was like to be 19. “Look,” I said, “They gave me tickets for two free drinks. Do you think I could use them?” His answer was you never know till you try. I didn’t have to though. Shall I say more? Nah. My mom might read this, lol.
The dance floor was incredibly small and crowded. It was fun not to have to think about executing steps in perfect fashion and dance frame for a night. It’s freedom to break every rule. You don’t even need a partner if you don’t want one. And if you do have one, the best part is getting them to dance in a more freestyle way than they are doing.
Their live band had a saxophone player. That really is one of the best instruments. And of course they also had a pretty lady singer, who made everyone look better.
Ironically, the last time I was at this hotel it was for a Pentecostal Revival with some friends. Now we’re hopping around on the dance floor. Same room and everything.
It was after we welcomed in the New Year, screamed as the balloons came falling down and continued dancing into the night (I know, technically, it would be morning, but that doesn’t sound right) that I was greeted by a giggling pretty girl who used her high alcohol level to join my dance space. She was fun, though slightly out of control, until I came to the conclusion that she was not simply drunk, but probably a lesbian as well. Suffice to say I took her hands and changed the “dance.”
Note to idiot men who take pictures of women dancing together: you’re idiots.
Anyway, Happy New Year to everyone!
Leanne
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